I agree with the stress about having too much to keep track of with less time to play. Now that my kids are (soon) 8 and 12 I have a lot more time to play, but it can still be once a week sometimes, unless I neglect to spend time with my wife.I really love both Baldur's gate and played most of rtwp and tb crpg's. But every time the worst part of the game is big city. It is to much loading, entering every house and talking with to much people, and remembering every location and trying not to miss something important (I like to finish 100% of the quest and find all secrets).
Also I cant play any more 24/7 like like when I was younger because of jobr/wife/kids, so sometimes days pass before I start playing again and returning to big city after few days outside of the game is really traumatic experience.
A usually do not like when game babysits you and holds your hand while playing, but I really appreciate that in big city.
Still, I played BG2 before Christmas and it was lovely to explore it again, even though it was hard to keep track of what I'd done and where I'd explored. I used the map markers frequently to see where I'd been.