I can sometimes be sarcastic and over-sensitive and all sorts of fun things that maybe don't contribute to great discussion, but I think (and would hope) that how I talk to people on this site or anywhere is never racially, ethnically, or gender motivated. I can't spend any time on RPG Codex because it's an overtly and consistently bigoted community that outright revels in how offensive and exclusionary it can be to as many groups as possible. I don't think there's any question that this site is not at that subterrenean level, but of course that doesn't mean we can't do better here.
I do think it's important not to conflate disagreement with sexism. There are respectful ways in which to say things, and not so respectful ways of course, and that applies to everyone. It seems overall that Purple is generally tired of disagreements and arguments which, yeah, I do get that. I often come off as contrary in print, I think, but I actually feel pretty uncomfortable with confrontation. Like most of us (of the non-troll variety), I like to feel a sense of community, and a sense of community is usually created from sharing values and opinons, at least a good deal of the time. If she feels that she's constantly defending herself, I understand why that would be tiring at least, and toxic at worst. I think a lot of us feel that disconnect at time, maybe a lot of the time. I know I do.
A woman on this site who feels that her opinions are consistently belittled and disregarded may well feel that it's because she's a woman. Is it? I don't know. It depends on the person doing the disregarding and belittling. Some people do that indiscriminately. And yes, there are people who think that RPGs are for men, and they devalue, maybe even subconsciously, the opinions of women. I don't think it's in anyone's best interests, including the women involved, if people are afraid to engage with them honestly, maybe disagreeing with them about combat mechanics or whatever, because they don't want to come across as sexist. I think our only real solution is the hard one: to try to engage with everyone as an individual with an equal right to be here and an equal chance to know what they're talking about, regardless of gender or anything else, and to be ourselves, warts and all, when doing so. Nobody apparently agreed with me, but the post I quoted earlier about "RPGs being primarily a male pursuit", well, that's the kind of view that is truly sexist and makes women feel unwelcome and unlistened to.
That was a ramble. Sorry. Have to get to work. TL;DR being respectful is not censorship, it's just how a community functions best, and I hope that everyone here receives that respect. I'll try to do better to remind myself of that when I post.